Ifeoma Odisa UGWU

Dear Sister,

Last week, we talked about what it feels like to be left behind—when others seem to be getting ahead in life, love, or career while you’re just… waiting. One of the biggest reasons that feeling gets louder is comparison.

So let’s talk about it.

There’s a very subtle thief that’s been stealing joy, peace, and purpose from girls like you (and me). Its name? Comparison.

It doesn’t shout. It whispers.
“See how far ahead she is?”
“You’re not doing enough.”
“Why is your story taking so long?”

And if you don’t catch it early, it creeps in and makes you believe something is wrong with you—even when you're exactly where God wants you.

When You Keep Looking Left and Right

Have you ever run in a race or played a game and found yourself looking around to see who’s catching up or getting ahead? It’s distracting. That’s what comparison does—it takes your eyes off your own path.

In today’s world, it’s even harder. One scroll on Instagram or TikTok, and you’ll see friends in loving relationships, people launching businesses, buying cars, gaining followers, winning scholarships, or living abroad. And in your quiet moment, the question hits you: “What am I even doing with my life?”

Dear sister, don’t let those thoughts settle. They’re lies. You are not behind. You are becoming.

Stay on Your God-Given Assignment

God doesn’t call us all to the same journey or the same timeline. That friend who’s married at 22? That classmate who’s building a fashion brand? That girl who just bought her first land? Celebrate them. But don’t get too worried about copying them.

Your life isn’t a group project. It’s a personal walk with God.
You don’t need to speed up or slow down to match someone else.
You need to listen to the One who gave you your own lane.

“Let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus…” (Hebrews 12:1-2)

 

The Real Danger of Comparison

When you constantly compare, here’s what happens:

• You doubt your pace
• You dismiss your progress
• You disrupt your peace
• And worst of all—you might depart from your path

Not because you’re failing. But because you’re watching everyone else instead of focusing on what God has called you to do.

How to Guard Your Heart against Comparison

• Reduce the Noise: Take social media breaks if needed. Don’t follow accounts that make you feel like less. Protect your peace.
• Keep a Gratitude Journal: Every week, write three things you’re thankful for. Gratitude reminds you of what’s working.
• Ask God for Clarity: Instead of asking “When will it be my turn?” ask “Lord, what are You teaching me in this season?”
• Celebrate Others—Out Loud: Train your heart to rejoice with others without resentment. It frees you.
• Track Your Progress: Make a habit of reflecting on your growth. You are not where you used to be, even if you’re not where you want to be.

You Are Not Late. You’re Right on Time.

Comparison wants you to rush. To panic. To chase what looks shiny.

But peace is found in knowing this: God is not in a hurry with you.
He’s building depth, not just display. He’s writing a full story, not a rushed caption.

So stay on your assignment. Stay faithful. Stay focused. You are not being overlooked. You are being prepared.

Reflection Questions for the Week:

Is comparison currently stealing my joy?

What has God assigned me to do in this season?

What would it look like if I trusted God’s timing completely?

Pray with Me

Dear Father,
Help me keep my eyes on You. Remind me that You’ve written a good story for me, and I don’t have to copy anyone else’s. Show me my lane, and give me the grace to stay in it joyfully. Help me celebrate others while trusting You with my journey. Amen.

With love and light,
Your Big Sister in Christ