Dear Sisters,

How has your week been? Mine’s been full but fruitful. Today, let’s talk about something that touches every part of your life; your personal life, your walk with God, your friendships, your career, and your ability to make lasting impact. It’s communication. And trust me its best learnt early.

I used to think I was a great communicator. I was confident, articulate and clear…or so I thought. But when I stepped into a leadership role at work, I quickly realized that my tone, though direct, often came off as blunt. I was surprised to learn that some people found me dismissive and too sharp. It was humbling to say the least.

I had learnt to be confident but confidence without self-awareness can easily come across as arrogance. I’m still learning how to frame my words properly. How to speak in truth and grace. Some days I do it well, and other days, I miss it. But I’m learning. And so can you.

Why Good Communication Matters So Much

Poor communication has broken families, ended friendships, closed doors in workplaces and even hindered spiritual growth. On the flip side, godly and thoughtful communication brings peace, trust, clarity, and growth.

Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” That verse could save a lot of relationships if we’d live by it. How you speak is just as important as what you say.

Even more, God is the Master Communicator. He speaks clearly through His Word, lovingly by His Spirit, and consistently through truth. If we’re growing to become like Him, then we must take communication seriously too.

What Should I Start Practicing Now?

Here are essential communication skills every young woman should begin developing:
• Clarity – Say what you mean. Don’t be vague or leave people guessing.
• Kindness – Even when you need to say something hard, say it in love.
• Timing – Some things can wait. Choose the right moment.
• Listening – Listen not to reply, but to understand.
• Tone Awareness – Your tone can completely change the meaning of your words.

A message wrapped in pride will be rejected, even if it’s true. But a message shared in humility has the power to heal and help.


In our digital age, you don’t have to be in a room to be speaking. Your posts, tweets, captions, and comments all speak for you. Social media has given everyone a microphone, and while that’s powerful, it also comes with responsibility.

Here’s how to communicate wisely online:
• Don’t be a keypad warrior. Being behind a screen is no excuse for being rude or reckless. If you wouldn’t say it face to face, don’t type it.
• Resist the urge to overshare. Not everything needs to be broadcast. Some things are sacred. Some things are private. Learn the difference.
• Pause before you post. Ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Does it reflect Christ?
• Don’t join public arguments. Fighting online rarely changes anyone’s heart. It mostly drains your energy and dims your light.
• Be a peacemaker. Matthew 5:9 says, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Let your online presence reflect that blessing.

Remember, everything you post is a seed. One day, you will either be glad you planted it or wish you hadn’t.

Confidence is Not Arrogance

It’s okay to speak with conviction. It’s okay to be bold. But ask yourself: Is my confidence rooted in truth or ego?

Confidence comes from knowing who you are and what you believe. Arrogance, however, tries to dominate and impress. Godly communication balances both truth and grace just like Jesus.

You can be:
• Bold, yet gentle
• Direct, yet kind
• Honest, yet loving

But it takes self-awareness, humility, and growth.


Good communication isn’t just about eloquence, it’s about intentionality. Whether you’re speaking to a friend, sending a text, writing an email, or replying online, your words carry weight.

Let’s be the kind of women who:
• Speak truth in love
• Choose words that heal, not harm
• Let the Holy Spirit guide both our speech and our silence

 Short Prayer

Dear Lord, please teach me how to communicate like You. Help me to be thoughtful, not rash. Gentle, not harsh. Help me to use words that heal, not hurt. I want to grow into a woman who speaks with wisdom, grace and power. Teach me when to speak and when to be still. Amen.

Until next time, 
With love and prayers, 
Your  Sister in Christ